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>A smashing good time
29 Apr>It’s settled.
27 Apr>
>Like Mother, like Daughter
26 Apr>I was out to dinner with my parents and siblings for the 5th night in a row. My step-dad, brother and sister were playing over priced arcade games and my mom and I sat at the table drinking beer and talking. We were talking about men. She was giving me the “If I was your age again” speech. I’m not sure what led to this, but out of no where she said, “I like a man to slap me around a little. Take control. Tell me what to do.” I told myself to put my eye brows back down where they belong and close my mouth. Part of me wanted to say, “Ohmygod. Me, too.” but the more rational part of my brain said, “Don’t do it, C. After your buzz wears off you are not going to be happy with yourself.” I waved Walter the waiter over, ordered another round and smiled. “I know what I like and what I want. I’m just waiting for the right one to come along.”
>Disclaimer- This is not a post. This is a rant.
25 Apr>I am so sick of keeping this secret. I feel like it would be easier to wear a shirt that says “In order to function, I need spanking….No really. I like and need to be spanked.” At first, friends and family would think I was crazy. And then it would just be a normal thing. I wish it was as easy as telling what flavor of ice cream to order you…. Maybe that was the wrong example. I wish it was as easy as giving someone a drink order at Starbucks… Okay, that’s actually not easy for me at all.
I JUST WISH IT WAS EASIER.
I don’t want to have everyone call me C anymore. C is not my real name. Neither is Darling. I just want to say, “here is my name. Use it. ” But I can’t. My name is unique. I can pretty much guarantee you don’t know anyone else with the same name, so if by some slim chance you do know me in vanilla world and you read my blog, there is no way in hell you aren’t going to think/know it’s me. I don’t care. I feel like sending everyone I know an email with the link to my blog. Then I won’t have to constantly delete my browsing history or change my passwords. I won’t care if someone is looking over my shoulder while I’m writing a post. I’ll be able to let my little brother play Angry Birds on my iphone without the fear of a tweet popping up that he can’t read.
I don’t want to look on spankfinder to find someone. The only people I’ve found on spankfinder are men at least 40 years older than me, looking for a sexual relationship. WHERE ON MY PROFILE DID I GIVE THAT IMPRESSION? When I put an age range up, it’s like a speed limit. It’s a speed limit and I’m a cop. A mean cop. If you go over 37 MPH, I’m giving you a ticket. No getting out of it. Same thing with age. If you are over 37, I am not interested. If you could have aided in my creation, I AM NOT INTERESTED.
I’m not a switch.I don’t want to switch. I think switching is great. Yah for people who know what they want. That is not what I want. I am a bottom. I am not a top. I am good at topping, but I don’t like it. I don’t want to do it. Please don’t ask me. I have a problem saying no, so I’ll say yes and then I’ll hate it. And then in order to end it, I’ll have to be mean and I just don’t want to be mean.
I want to be able to walk down the street or into the library or a bar and be able to meet a guy that doesn’t think I’m insane for wanting a DD relationship.
Here is what I’m looking for. Maybe we could all pull our resources and make this happen soonish. I’ve got a wedding to go to the first week of May. I’d like a date.
I want a man. Age 23-37. Attractive. Taller than 5’4. Able to have an intelligent conversation. Doesn’t cringe at the thought of children. Has a good personality and a sense of humor. Knows the difference between their, there and they’re. Can handle a DD relationship. Lives within a 30 mile radius of C-town, North Carolina. Celebrates holidays. Isn’t already married. Has a good scolding voice.
>The one with the superheroes and Super villains
22 Apr>
>You are getting very sleepy
19 Apr>
>It’s just not working
13 Apr>I was draped over the chair and I was thinking. That was a lot harder than it sounds; a very thick and heavy wooden spoon was being vigorously applied to my thighs and butt. All I could think was, “This is not working.” I mean, the spanking was working. It hurt. It hurt so much that I had to end the session with my safe word. The part that wasn’t working was the situation…the relationship or lack thereof. I am not looking for someone to pull my pants down, spank me and then send me on my way until next week. I’m getting the spanking, the physical part of discipline, but I’m not getting the emotional part, the part I actually need. I need the lecture. The stern look. The bit of disappointment in his voice. I need someone who wants to see me succeed as much as I want to see myself succeed. I need the spanking and then I need the forgiveness. Too many pieces of the puzzle were missing.
I talked to D a little bit about it. His advice was simple, “If it’s not working then stop seeing him.” Simple enough, but I like to over analyze the shit out of things. So I sat and came up with a mental list of things that weren’t working and things that were working. The list of cons outweighed the list of pros. After thinking it over for a few more days, I emailed S this afternoon and told him I would not be coming back next Monday. I explained it wasn’t anything he did, it just wasn’t right for me. I’m glad I did it, but I also feel a bit disappointed. I’m selfish. I like being spanked. It was soooo convenient with S. But I am not selfish enough to put myself in a situation I do not feel safe with.
I’m very new to all this and I’m just starting to explore. There are going to be things that work and things that don’t work. I’m glad I was able to recognize that it wasn’t working and I’m thankful that I was able to try it out in a safe environment.
>An update for those curious folks out there
10 Apr>
Sometimes my life gets a little bit confusing…even for me. I feel like it’s been a crazy whirl wind the last few months. I’ve neglected my blog. I’ve neglected my body. I’ve neglected my responsibilities. I’ve neglected my job. I’ve been in a funk. Fortunately for me, I have two awesome people in my life to firmly take my hand and pull me out of this funk. I’d like to introduce them to you. Let’s start with S. I found him on spankfinder. He had a very interesting info section. It was almost like a wanted ad calling my name- “Are you a young lady that can’t seem to get her life under control? Are you neglecting your blog, your body, your responsibilities and your job? If so, you’ve come to the right place.” Okay, that’s not really what it said. It was something along those lines and it spoke to me. We began emailing back and forth and set up a time to meet for coffee and chat. Long story short, I stood him up. Got as far as walking up to the coffee shop, he asked if I was C. I said no and got the hell out of there. Later that night I got an email. He understood I was nervous and he would still be there if I changed my mind. I was so embarrassed and feeling lousy about standing him up that I took a few days to reply. That same day, a friend encouraged me to look for a Munch on fetlife. Wow. This is a long story and we aren’t even half way through. We can take a break for some tea or juice or milk in a bag. Pick your poison.
Okay, so she found a Munch for me and it happened to be that same day. I said, “You know what, C? You want to do this. You CAN do this. You are going to this Munch today and you are going to get involved in this community. No use sitting at home envying people that get spanked. It’s going to end now.” And end it did. S was at the Munch. He is an older gentleman. Very fatherly-like. We talked the entire time. Yada yada yada, he asked if I wanted to give spanking a shot. I said yes. He started lecturing. Yada yada yada. He pulled me over his lap in front of all those people and started spanking me. Kidding. But we did go back to his house and he gave me one hell of a spanking. (I had already given his info to a friend when I went to meet S at the coffee shop the week before. I texted said friend and told him to call the police if he hadn’t heard from me in an hour. I also checked the sex offenders website and did many google searches on his name. I was safe.) So I was spanked for slacking off on my school work and for blowing him off. Then I went home on my merry way to admire my beautifully bruised bottom. So, to sum up S, he is the spanker and just the spanker.
Now we will move onto the other wonderful person keeping me in line, Mr. Bossy Pants…. I mean D. I started reading D‘s blog a couple months ago. I didn’t know if D was a guy or girl, all I knew was this person wrote wonderful stories that made me blush. Apparently D was also reading my blog. We started emailing. Yada, yada, yada. It all started out as a regular friendship and then became more of a Top/bottom relationship. I’ll tell you what I told him yesterday, “You know what I like about you? You aren’t ever pouty. You’re funny. You’re smart. You’re just the right amount of mean. You’re strict. You’re sweet and you’re caring.” And those are all the things he is, plus more. He spoils me with stories. He stays up until 5 am talking to me, because of the time difference. He streams Doctor Who and we watch it together even though I am grounded from watching TV. (Not because I wanted to watch it, but because HE wanted me to watch it. So Toppy.) He doesn’t let me get my way. He holds me accountable. He lectures like a champ. He’s fabulous.
There is one very big “issue” I have with D. He is in Australia studying right now. That’s a 2 hour time difference, plus an AM/PM change. (It’s 1:30 PM my time. It is 3:30 AM his time.) I have work. He has class. I’m sleeping during his day. He’s sleeping during my day. What a headache. Anyway.
D keeps me in line using things that he can do while we are on separate continents. So when I complain about not being able to watch tv, or sitting in the corner studying flash cards or writing essays, we can all blame D :p
So now you are caught up!
>There’s beauty in the breakdown
8 Apr>